A young Marine sniper is asked by someone how old he is. "How old am I?" he replies. "I am 2 combat deployments, 47 dead friends, a handful of confirmed kills, one year of college and 24 years old. You'll have to add all of that stuff up"
— Anonymous
Also remember that in any man’s dark hour, a pat on the back and an earnest handclasp may work a small miracle.
— Brigadier General S.L.A. Marshall
“… My wife and I would fight day in and day out & I would yell at my children or try to avoid them as much as I could. This went on for three years before I knew that I needed some serious help, or I was going to lose all that was important to me. The Lazarus project is the avenue that brought me back and saved my family. Without this program I would have suffered for years.”
— Client Testimonial
"I wouldn't change ANYTHING at the Lazarus Project. Rev Jodi and Miss Susie helped us so much. I really appreciate everything that you've done for us."
— Client Testimonial
"Jodi and Jerry are a Godsend. They have helped me expand my knowledge, deal with my issues and have done this in the most nonjudgmental way possible to make me feel at ease and comfortable to talk to about my concerns."
— Client Testimonial
"The Lazarus Project has been very helpful and healing for my family. The staff and counselors were there for me when I was going through a rough time... The Lazarus Project helped not only me but others I know to get through deployments and to help communicate better with our husbands and children. Deployments are rough, and it's nice to have someone to lean on..."
— Client Testimonial
"SAFE is definately a lifesaver!!"
— Client Testimonial
"Thank you so much for what you did for me and my family. I wouldn't have been able to make it without your help!"
— Client Testimonial
"Thanks you wonderful people!"
— Client Testimony
"Just knowing we have Don and SAFE in our corner for support and 'Kicking Ass' is a awesome thing. Keep it up... wouldn't have made it without you."
— Client Testimony
"I can't thank you enough for what SAFE has done for me and for my family. Your support and help means so much to us!"
— Client Testimony
"Ya'll are awesome and we love all the help you have given us!"
— Client Testimony
"... I met some of the kindest, most loveable and kind hearted people... [SAFE] treated me and the other Soldiers, veterans and spouses like we were human beings instead of numbers. Thank you to each and everyone and may God bless you in so many ways for the wonderful things you are doing"
— Client Testimony
"Thanks for all the help. Just knowing I'm not the only one has made me feel a lot better."
— Client Testimony
Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
— Confucius
What cannot be talked about cannot be put to rest. And if it is not, the wounds will fester from generation to generation.
— Dr. Bruno Bettelheim
I hate war as only a soldier who has lived it can, only as one who has seen its brutality, its futility, its stupidity.
— Dwight D. Eisenhower
People tell me to forget the war, telling me it is over. Their advice is sound and well-intentioned but impossible to follow. Simply because my mind is not a faucet that I can turn on and off and at will. I am working on it.
— Eddie H. Livingston, World War II combat veteran, former POW
The hero is the one who kindles a great light in the world, who sets up blazing torches in the dark streets of life for men to see by. The saint is the man who walks through the dark paths of the world, himself a light.
— Felix Adler
It is only those who have neither fired a shot nor heard the shrieks and groans of the wounded who cry aloud for blood, more vengeance, more desolation. War is hell.
— Gen. William Tecumseh Sherman
I thought the war would never end. And perhaps it never did.
— Georg Grosz
The willingness with which our young people are likely to serve in any war, no matter how justified, shall be directly proportional to how they perceive veterans of early wars were treated and appreciated by our nation.
— George Washington
Must you carry the bloody horror of combat in your heart forever?  
— Homer, “The Odyssey”
In war, there are no unwounded soldiers.
— José Narosky
Any soldier returning home must rediscover his humanity and establish a livable peace with the discovered, liberated, permanently dark places in his own heart -- the darkness that is always with us.
— Larry Heinemann, Vietnam combat veteran & author
If ye break faith with us who die We shall not sleep, though poppies grow In Flanders fields.
— LTC John McCrae- "In Flanders Fields"
When a culture simply shrugs about what happens to people in war, it breaks the fragile sequence, the bond between all people.
— Michael Meade
Valor is stability, not of legs and arms, but of courage; of the soul.
— Michel de Montaigne
This country needs its professional warriors. It also needs people in other walks of life who know what the decision to go to war means.
— Nathaniel C. Fick, former Marine captain & Iraq & Afghanistan Veteran
What a cruel thing is war:  to separate and destroy families and friends, and mar the purest joys and happiness God has granted us in this world; to fill our hearts with hatred instead of love for our neighbors, and to devastate the fair face of this beautiful world.
— Robert E. Lee
...For God and the soldier we adore, In time of danger, not before! The danger passed, and all things righted, God is forgotten and the soldier slighted.
— Rudyard Kipling
A man who is good enough to shed his blood for his country is good enough to be given a square deal afterwards. More than that no man is entitled to, and less than that no man shall have.
— Teddy Roosevelt
I know I have to deal with it (PTSD): Because I'm either going to destroy it... or it's going to destroy me.
— Vietnam combat Veteran
If you could hear, at every jolt, the blood / Come gargling from the froth-corrupted lungs, / Obscene as cancer, bitter as the cud / Of vile, incurable sores on innocent tongues, / My friend, you would not tell with such high zest / To children ardent for some desperate glory, / The old Lie: Dulce et Decorum est [Sweet and fitting it is] / Pro patria mori. [To die for one's country.]
— Wilfred Owen

Welcome!

Many of those who serve in combat return to the safety of their homes but still don’t feel as if they have “come home.” Too many experience guilt, anger, difficulties with trust, and feelings of isolation- all normal responses to the abnormal experiences of combat and readjustment upon homecoming. Their families also struggle with many of the same issues as they try to help loved ones make the transition into the home and our community, as well as ones unique to their own situation.

Soldiers And Families Embraced is a resource for the community to ease the readjustment and reintegration of military members returning from our current wars and their families, as well as veterans from previous eras. After returning from combat, returning to a “normal” pre-deployment life is impossible—our veterans have seen and done things that have given them a different outlook on life and ways of looking at themselves and others. However, a “new normal” doesn’t need to automatically equate to negative feelings or outcomes. It’s a healthy and productive way to live life, and how people cope and come to grips with the trauma they’ve been through.

The counselors and staff of Soldiers And Families Embraced are made up of veterans, family members of veterans or active duty military, or have extensive experience working with them. We “get it”, and in many cases have been through the struggles our clients deal with on a regular basis. Because of this connection and understanding, you can count on us to be there for you and with you. There’s no need for fear of judgement or the need to justify why you have the worries and struggles you do.

Are you in crisis? Please call 1-800-273-TALK and Press “1″ for veterans.

Are you feeling desperate, alone or hopeless? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and press “1″ for veterans. The lifeline is a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.